Unlike Dom I don't think 80% of people on these boards would feel lucky to be where you are. I think your H has you between a rock and a hard place.
I have had my H say things like "a W putting on weight should be grounds for a divorce". That was after kids 3 and 4. He doesn't say it now because HE is overweight and I now am not but it sure made me feel horrid and I still remember it. I lost all my weight due firstly to an accident - that has given me so much pain that I actually stoppped being able to eat properly for long periods and also due to distress at our M. I haven't put any effort into it so I guess I am 'lucky'. I understand what you say about exercise and the lack of endorphins. I have my own horse and then the four kids to run after and that keeps me fit but when I am very depressed i don't feel like doing much of anything physical.
I wish I could hop over the ocean and give you a hug. Your H is being cruel to you mentally - I know he doesn't know that you know but it is still cruel. Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
