This is one that gets me as well. I have a job that allows me the flexibility of working from home. So.. anytime our D's are sick and can't go to school, I'm the one who stays home. Now, there are days where I have appt's scheduled etc and I can't. But I get accused of being selfish and caring more about my job than anything else.
I get them up/dressed and fed every morning and off to school. If it's not her school night, I at least give one D a bath If it's not her school night, I at least put one D in bed Her school night's (2-3 nights) I do both. I cook.. clean the kitchen, do the laundry, grocery shop, plus all the "manly" duties.. mow grass, car maintenance, garbage.
