Laughing - You're the most sane person I know, to be able to go through all this madness!!!
But you know what? S made his choice, he's a big boy, he may suffer some unpleasant consequences, but we cannot protect our children from everything. Even without all the family drama, your S might be making poor choices right now. Teens do that. You just have to trust that you have given him a solid foundation to come back to.
Now - quit focusing on him so much and focus on your D. She needs you more than ever right now.
