neph, I don't think they are physically back together. I am sure OW's H has a tight leash on her. But obviously they still care a lot for one another.
Sue, I am sorry you went through this before, but it makes me feel better that H's behavior is kind of 'text book'. And yes, being ignored is horrible. Just answer the freaking question.
Mark, sent you some emails. Thanks for checking on me.
husband, I'll hang in there, if you promise to as well. Thanks for the update on Cali.
hi miss morgan, you have mail too.
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he was mad at me was to say to him once and very seriously that all I wanted was for him to be happy because I was sure he was a great person.
I am sooo glad this might be a good thing to do because last night I told him "You are a good person, with a wonderful big heart. You are an amazing husband and father. You just fell off track, and fell hard. I don't want to see you sinking. I want you to be happy. You need the freedom to be happy and I want to give that to you". Some other things too, but it was soooo similar to what you typed. I do honestly want him to heal.
I had had some busy days but its been tons of fun. Field trip was amazing and the Halloween party at D5's school was sooo nice. Of course, we had to 'trick or treat' by OW's car, and she gave my girls candy. There was no avoiding it, really. H wasn't with me, the sinners stayed at their separate cars and handed out candy. I was all smiles (and by the way, all dressed up with new clothes on, so there!) and the girls said thanks and we moved on. I could not look at her but I was very composed. I saw OW's H later and we talked briefly. Just hi's and how are you's, but it was very comfortable. We deserve that.
According the H, OW is not taking his calls (probably can't or she will be divorced) and he was very surprised that she put that note on his car. I feel so bad for OW's H. I feel like I owe more loyalty to him than my own H. I know H will be furious if I tell him, but still haven't decided. H said last night "As far as I know, they are working on their marriage". I calmly said "He might be, but she isn't, and that's not fair".
I have a very sick D3 and 20 women coming to my house for a spa party tomorrow. My very selish H went out straight after the party and left me to tend to tired, sugar filled babies, one with a fever. I was mad, but now I am fine, because they were great, I was there for them, and there were no eggshells. But H stayed up late with me last night, cleaning up a wet bed, checking D3's temp and really helping a lot. Whatever, alien! Hope everyone is well.
Thanks for the hugs. 
