“You wouldn’t make your kids move and suffer because of a D, would you?”, meaning that she wanted to of course keep the house for the kids
I don't have an answer, but I feel a tiny bit selfish! I am staying in the family home until D16 graduates from high school. However, that was not my original intent. I actually was looking for a smaller place, but my H suggested I stay here. I think that just helps him feel less guilty (and I believe he has moved in with someone anyway).
I wish that the person who wants the divorce would be the one to suffer (i.e. my H asked me for the D, so it's "normal" for him to move out). In your case, it doesn't seem fair! What is best for the children???? If you don't work things out with your W I hope you will find a place where you feel comfortable having your children there. You'll have the opportunity to make NEW MEMORIES with your children! It won't be easy, but it is possible.
Just being away for the holidays won't be easy for you this year. Maybe that is a good transition.
