Husband in MLC for about 5 years, unhappy with house, job, family etc....
April 2005: H files for divorce, but puts it on hold after I convince him to "try again" and I vow to make it the very best year of our marriage (I become the Stepford Wife!).
Dec 2005: H becomes friends with OW at work.
January 2006: H hiding cell phone and talking about how terrible our marriage is. I suspect OW, but have no proof. Without telling H, I hire a PI to try and learn the truth.
February 2008: H informs me he's filing for D (actually a refile!).
March 2006: Served with D papers and H moves out. I find out there is OW and decide I have nothing to lose... Confront her, let her husband know about the situation and make my husband absolutely furious!
June 2006: I'm detaching, GAL and starting on one of the best summers of my life in spite of the sadness about my marriage and missing my H. But in addition to all of this, I'm working on being friends with him in spite of the D. Even if only for the kids.
September 2006: Husband hints about getting back together (and buys me a new car too!). I discourage this and tell him I wouldn't want to unless he was completely certain he wanted to be back with me. The yoyoing was too hard on the kids.
October 2006: H confirms that he is absolutely certain he wants to stop the divorce and be with his family again. He calls his attorney to completely stop it. I put it on hold with my attorney. H moves back with us.
Today: Overall things are well. H really does seem like a different person (like he really did wake up!). More content with what he has. Seems to appreciate having a wife and family. Still have ups and downs, but we both seem to handle them better. And I'm not a Stepford Wife!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
