What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

Ok, after hitting an Alanon meeting and a phone C session I made a decision, related it to him and made myself clear.

'I want nothing to do with you until you prove to me that you have cut all ties with OW once and for all, no excuses. You also need to quit drinking and find AA or another program to help you get sober. Stop making this R about our unborn daughter. It is between you and I and if it truly is only about our daughter then I will see you in March when she is born. You have some thinking and decisions to make. Let me know when you decide.'

Man, do I feel liberated! I know financially I will be fine without him and my kids and this baby will be ok. I do not want him back unless things are taken care of.

I feel like I have some control back.