Hmm. Well, I know he's interested in her, and that when he told her, she said if she had stronger feelings for him she could never do anything about it. That was probably about two months ago.
Considering the amount of time he's clearly spending with her, sounds like she may have developed "stronger feelings." Or they may be friends.
So he's told me he's interested and that she wasn't, then I told him I really didn't want to hear about his dating. So if things have changed between them in the meantime, does that mean he's lying?
Oh, maybe you mean whether he'd been lying all along? Call me a fool, but I still believe what he told me then.
Hey, I can see you all shaking your heads out there! Sheesh.
No, not what I meant. I meant he has suggested or implied he wants to spend time with her and the kids, and they are still just friends. But he's there in her town a lot. My guess is since he's now told her he's ending it with you, ages more open to it. But just a hunch. It is the implied "were just friends" today that I doubt. He probably is being less than forthcoming.
Nomo
PS-on BB so sorry for any typos.
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Wow, Heim, never thought of it as a habit. My H's self-image seems to be bound up in telling the truth, though, which is probably why I believe him. He'd hate himself if he lied. Doesn't mean he hasn't, though.
Nomo, I see what you're saying. I'll tell him again before I go that I'd prefer he not spend time with the kids and any dates before we've spoken to them. That way if they're just friends, he'll have to make the case. And if they're not, well, I'll mention that it's something we can discuss with kid C next week.
How about this email: Okay, I set up the appointment. When we meet with her, one of the things I'd like to discuss is how/when to involve the kids with people we're dating or interested in. Before we get some clarity during that talk, I'd like to ask you to please refrain.
What do you think? (Notice the people "we're" dating---too much?)
You're right, hon, it doesn't matter. Just channeling a little Homer there.
Good, sent it off.
Just got an email from the friend who's organized this weekend's camping shindig, telling me her BF dumped her. Woo hoo! This is going to be some weekend. She's a wickedly funny, brainy, beautiful blond---nice to know everyone gets dumped sometimes. Who are these guys??
Or they may be friends.
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