Wow, Heim, never thought of it as a habit. My H's self-image seems to be bound up in telling the truth, though, which is probably why I believe him. He'd hate himself if he lied. Doesn't mean he hasn't, though.
Nomo, I see what you're saying. I'll tell him again before I go that I'd prefer he not spend time with the kids and any dates before we've spoken to them. That way if they're just friends, he'll have to make the case. And if they're not, well, I'll mention that it's something we can discuss with kid C next week.
How about this email: Okay, I set up the appointment. When we meet with her, one of the things I'd like to discuss is how/when to involve the kids with people we're dating or interested in. Before we get some clarity during that talk, I'd like to ask you to please refrain.
What do you think? (Notice the people "we're" dating---too much?)
