Down and out...need hope.

[Heimlich]

Please work with me on this...I know this is not what you want but if there is any hope for us, I need this. Otherwise, we can just jump to the next step..."

You want to be right or you want to be married?

Assume she's telling you the truth, that she sees the possibility of hope for you two but that if you don't leave there is none.

Bite the bullet. Get out. It's not optimal or prefered, but your W seems pretty clear on where she is. If you think you can approach her about her moving out rather than you without blaming/accusing/guilting her and having that conversation in an open manner, give it a try.

BD