He's on Match.com

[Dom R]

So, here's my suggestion. With the backdrop that I put in "TODAY" because you are short on time here:

TODAY (or at the very latest, tomorrow), commit to an excercise program that you can at least be interested in to some degree.

GO TO IT, today or tomorrow.

Let your husband know that you enjoyed it, and plan to keep doing it.

Make some fun plans with your husband this weekend, hopefully, just like you two have enjoyed weekends together all this time.
If he balks at it... Dont be whiny, or needed. Instead, be forceful and "sassy". But make it happen.


Then, after you have shown your willingness to continue having fun together, AND that you are going to do something you havent done for a while and keep your body in better shape... have an 'R' talk with him,if he hasnt brought it up already.

Ask him further about the "nothing is changing" comment he made. Ask him what he is looking to change in your relationship, or in you specifically.

if he makes some statement about you being "bold", or whatever, have an immediate response for him right there and then. aka:
"ok, then, lets [drive to vegas/go hang gliding/go have sex on the roof] RIGHT NOW!" and mean it. Go do it with him.

So.... how about it?
Are you going to mope about things, and just let things "fizzle out" on a time limit?
Or are you going to keep trying... really trying, with no holding back, and fight for your husband with everything you have?

It's "the 4th quarter". "The final inning". "The home stretch". Whatever you want to call it.. this is the time to put in EVERYTHING you have, instead of just giving up on things!

2x4 for you:
you are SO D### LUCKY, Agent99! You get more positive time, and compliments, from your husband, and a whole suite of other things, than 80% of the people on this board!!
For you to just feel like giving up, I think is insulting to the rest of us. Many of us would kill to have the chance that you have, and you seem to just be giving up