I'm not going to do the quoting game or anything. You really didn't understand me, and you are too new at this to see why. When your down this road for a year or two and the "desperation" of the moment has worn off, you'll see what I mean.
You've basically got me wrong. I've been in this same forum as you. I do believe there is hope for reconciliation after divorce. I've been divorced and reconciled. Why would I conclude that it was an impossibility? As I told you repeatedly, moving forward isn't the same as quitting. Quitting is knowing you will never take your ex-spouse back. Moving forward is proceeding as if you will be a HAPPILY UNMARRIED man (not an unhappily unmarried man), and actually succeed in being happy without her. If you can't be happy in your own skin or without your spouse, then why would she want you? And that wasn't sarcasm or nastiness. It was reality. A person that can not be happy and complete on their own is not attractive. There is nothing wrong with having your goal, but standing stagnantly in one place is unlikely to help you reach that goal. Yes, I was harsh to you....mainly because you annoyed me. But it didn't change my recommendation or my perceptions...you are a divorced man that can't face the fact that he's divorced and that it's okay to be happy with your single life.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
