He's on Match.com

[Dom R]

Agent:
you're sabotaging your own efforts here.
you are turning "3 months" into "2 and a half months".

I suggest you quit looking to "get out early", and put in honest efforts for the 3 months that you committed to.

have all this talk with yourself at 3 months, not 2.5?

Last Sunday he said that he wondered "what we were doing" because nothing was changing.

now, THIS is what I think you should be focusing on. THIS, is an actual opportunity to DO something!

SO.. what did you say? What did he even mean?
"nothing is changing from last week"?
"nothing is changing from 6 months ago"? (that cant be it?)

what?

This 3 months is, unfortunately, all about HIM. So, it's important to figure out what he is expecting.

HE, might have been expecting that you actually talk to him more about commitment, hence the "nothing is changing" comment.
Ironically, one of the reasons he may have started looking at match.com again, is because perhaps you didnt follow up strongly to his question, so HE is gearing up to start dating when 3 months rolls around.

Ironically.. this could be his response to your actions. See what I mean?
Not saying "it's your fault". What I'm saying is; quit getting stressed and being all fatalistic about things, and start looking for POSITIVE possibilities here!!!

Maybe it's time for "act as if".

as in, "Act as if, if you approach him in the right way, he WILL agree to commit to you; it's just that right now, he feels in limbo".

I'm going to make a very specific suggestion in my next post. I hope you will consider replying to that one directly.

btw: I think that 3 months is the time to hold of on making any ultimatums. however, positive, non-defeatist discussions before then, might be a good thing for you?