jen, thank you very much, it sounds like you're right about on target for my mess. i have been suspecting alot of other frustration troubling my W for awhile. she quit her job about 3 wks ago and really has no plans of going back to work. she also seems to be having some issues with her mother. today seems to be going better, I got kind of frustrated with the things W has been saying that she has been going to do for weeks and not doing. So this morning I got up early and started cleaning the house, finished painting the bedroom and gave her dog a bath. she rolled out of bed about noon or so,saw what I had been doing and asked "what have you done wrong, you must want something". i didn't say anything, but i really wanted to say "just my life with you back". last night W couldn't sleep in our bed so she wound up in d8's bed who then came in to sleep with me and d3. I know it is kind of giving in to her as far as picking up where she's neglected, but a clean house in some sort of order may help her mental state and pull her out of this funk a little bit. W also talked a little bit and I listened, not about anything pertaining to us or R, just small talk. that was a positive sign for me, it beats the silent treatment and avoiding looking at me all the time. I have to go to work tonight, so that will give W some time to herself.
just_plain_hopeful
Anywhere's walking distance when you have enough time
To give up when all is against you is a sign of being weak and cowardly. --Chief Eagle, Teton Sioux
