It is or I should say can be. The descent into the abyss is normally slow and we only see in hindsight what we should have seen and addressed. So then is the rise back to a healthy balanced R. You are only just beginning this journey.
Now is the time to establish what is important to each other and to ensure you work it into your M. You have to continue and watch that you don't backslide as well. It's easy once the dust settles to fall back into old habits and ways. this is the start of a continual journey.
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Now I have the opportunity but find that I have been deeply hurt over a period of time and have protected myself and don't know how to reconnect.
This is perhaps the hardest thing to cope with. At the same time as wanting to love and be loved you still hurt. It's the time when you can almost 'get your own back' for all the hurt that was done to you. It's the ideal time to say "well now you want me I don't want you" but you know somehow you have to get over that.
Just keep venting on here and read about these things and it will gradually subside. It takes diiferent amounts of time for all of us. It was this stage that brought me to these boards. Well actually a year on from where you are I arrived. That's how long it's taken me to come to terms - from July06 until now. Now I can actually see the benefit's that have arisen from my H's A. When I registered in Jume this year on this site I would still have punched anyone, (OK whipped), whho dare even suggest there would be any benefits. Now I can see about 60% there are benefits. gradually that %age increases.
Hang in there and BE stubborn
saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
