He's on Match.com

[Trixi]

If you cant stick that out, then you portray yourself as someone who cannot stick to agreements.
Given that you want him to recommit to the "agreement of marriage".. which is a lifelong commitment ... I dont think it puts you as a favourable partner for such a thing, if you cant stick to one that is only 3 months.

We are 12 days away from the 3 month point and he is actively looking on Match.com. The 3 month point was an agreement to sit down and re-evaluate where things were going. Last Sunday he said that he wondered "what we were doing" because nothing was changing. Oh (also Sunday) when I was upset but had not managed to articulate that I thought he was being mean, he said "Are you looking for closure?" I had not managed to tell him anything about why I was crying (searching for words) so that indicates that is what HE is thinking about. Do I really want to risk losing the lease to own house over 12 days when the writing is on the wall?

and if his reply after the 3 months is "nope i wont commit", then I think you will feel much more solid with yourself in a decision to go for that house for yourself.

We are 12 days from 3 months. A week and a half ago I asked if we were exclusively dating and he said "So far". He's on match.com and is "single with no baggage". What kind of dope would I have to be smoking to think that in 12 days he would be committed? He can't even commit to dating me exclusively.

It's not so much that I am expecting committed behavior from him; it's more like I am becoming more clear at just how UNcommitted he is and trying to make decisions based on that info.