Its just so difficult to be patient. Its sooooo frustrating to have her be nice to me, but show absolutely no interest and then to say 'I dont want to give you the wrong idea'...
I'm going to continue to try and 'detach' the best I can. But, how do I do that if were still under the same roof? I guess treat her like she's treating me? But how could that be a positive. I cant stand being treated with no respect, no interest. Sort of like I'm a ghost. I feel like I deserve more opportunity that she's giving me.
If you read 'The five love languages' it talks about making 'love deposits' - Even if your wife isn't doing anything for you, there is nothing stopping you from doing things for her and being a friend. If most of the sitches I read are anything to go by, there's going to be a point where she is starts questioning what she is doing and feels confused and vulnerable, and you probably want to be the person she turns to at that point, rather than someone else. It's hard to be a friend to someone who treats you like dirt and doesn't give you the time of day, but it's possible to detach as a S and still be a friend.
