That is exactly what I am going for. I just talked about this with my H, who feels compelled to go for the sex. I actually said to him to not gorge out on one interaction...instead, let's spread the teasing/romance stuff throughout the day. He came home for lunch...we did a little fondling stuff as we talked in the den about our latest housing project...and we left it like that. I have to go out tonite and when I come back we are going to sit around this little fire pit on the deck, and have a snack. It just feels so at ease right now. There's no starvation. Before this, there was this undefined tension to get the sex in...this shift really is something new, like this week new.
Oh and I agree with MrsCac...we may all be 4's, but we are unlike your 2bx in personality. During the sexual anorexia era, I was never mean or rude to my H. My H would agree. Too illustrate, I had this convo with my H about that book I'm reading, Eat, Pray, Love ( which you MUST read). There's this discussion about how every person and every city can be defined by one word ( the author wants to find her word). So I asked my H what he thought my word was, and he said, "Sweet." I don't think that's your 2bx's word.
