muddled and angry: Puddle's third thread

[Heimlich]

Not sure what to say about the shirts. You're looking for a special kind of woman, that's all I have to say

HEY!

Funny about your H. Sounds like you've got the detachment thing down. As you know, who knows why he's moody -- the moon, the tides, whatever. Nice to think that he's feeling the twinge of you distancing yourself though.

Keep it up.

I'm loving CVA's sartorial advice. Are some of these shoes that you have, CVA, from zappo.com? Something you're not sharing with the rest of us . . .

BD

[Not Much Left]

Good one H! Ill keep u wondering!

[Puddle]

Hey H,

I'm picturing you in a loud print shirt drinking mead in front of a huge TV ... I'm sure there are many, many women who'd appreciate that. What's up with you, by the way? Things going okay?

CVA, maybe we should plan a DB pre-holiday shopping extravaganza! Paris, anyone?

Take care.

[Heimlich]

I'll post on my thread later. Things are fine. Not really engaging W at all. Feeling pretty detached.

Mead is purely for Renn Fest. Only allow myself the occassional adult beverage as I try to drop some more tonnage. I'll bring a few on the ski trip and you can judge for yourself. I wouldn't say I look fetching in them, but a few friends have said they fit my personality. I chose to take that as a compliment at the time.

Still love the TV, but the new toy factor is wearing off. Getting back to reading more than watching TV again. NFL in high-def though, wow, an absolute good in life.

BD

[Nomopo]

Good morning P! Coming out of my Thursday night fog.

I think I believe him; he's a lot of things, but he's not a liar...lordy I hope I don't have to eat those words).

All I can tell you is I felt exactly the same way about my W and, sure enough, there was lying and deception. May not be true for you, but is not at all unlikely, so don't be naive about the possibility.

It's definitely on my short list of things to ask the C about when we meet her. I'm less concerned about the kids hanging out with someone they know and like already than getting involved with a person H is in an R with. Does that make sense?

Yes.

Actually now that I think about it, even guessing about this stuff is utterly useless. I'll never know.

This is a TREMENDOUS pearl of wisdom. We would all do well to understand and apply this.

Interesting how WAS always has a "twinge" when you are distant regardless of how far away they might be.

CVA -- see pearl of wisdom above.

Oh, your ears should have been burning all last night as you were a topic of conversation while I was out w/ Nomo! He is crazy, loco crazy!!! I say that in a fun way of course! Too many red bull's and vodka although I feel pretty good with 3 hrs sleep!

Geez CVA!!! You're making ME look like a STALKER now. And unfairly I might add. P, your name/thread came up briefly, along with several other DBers, while we were waiting for more service at the bar. I think I said something along the lines of your H has his head up his a$$.

Or maybe just you two louts talking about me. Thanks a lot!

Great!!!! Just what I was afraid of. Sorry.

He is crazy, loco crazy!!! I say that in a fun way of course! Too many red bull's and vodka although I feel pretty good with 3 hrs sleep!

Did you guys dance on any tables? Red bull and vodka---what are you crazy? That's a heart attack waiting to happen. Mercy.

Actually, I started with a rum and coke appetizer, moved to Japanese beer with dinner (yes, sushi again, but a new place), had American beer at the bar until CVA arrived, and I didn't want him to drink Red Bull and Vodka alone. BTW, I am ending this second "college days" phase . . . tomorrow.

Take care,
Nomo

[Puddle]

Hey Heim!

Not really engaging W at all. Feeling pretty detached.

This sounds really good, Heim, really, really good.

Only allow myself the occasional adult beverage as I try to drop some more tonnage. I'll bring a few on the ski trip and you can judge for yourself. I wouldn't say I look fetching in them, but a few friends have said they fit my personality.

Took me a second to figure out you weren't talking about the mead here (after the first sentence).

I know what you mean about the TV. That's the way of all things, isn't it? I agree with you: NFL in high-def = absolute good. Books = absolute good. I started a new Julian Barnes book last night---I love his wit---but this one's about an Eastern European dictator after the fall of the wall. Not as fun as I'd hoped.

Hey Nomo!

Good morning P! Coming out of my Thursday night fog.

Glad to hear it. I'm impressed you guys can even function on three hours' sleep. Those days are so over for me.

May not be true for you, but is not at all unlikely, so don't be naive about the possibility.

That's exactly what I'm going for---no surprise. I think I'll just bear in mind that now that H and I are on the same page, and especially since I told him I'd rather not be kept abreast of his dating activities, he probably feels free to do as he chooses. And he is.

This is a TREMENDOUS pearl of wisdom. We would all do well to understand and apply this.

Hey, I think when my brain starts going there, I'm going to pull what GD did to sop on his last posts:

"Hmmm, I wonder why H is so pissy. Could it be he's jealous?"
"Irish guy walks out of a bar ... hey, it could happen."
"But he could've wondered where I was headed dressed nicely and rushing out the door..."
"Seal walks into a bar. Bartender says 'What'll you have?' Seal says 'Anything but a Canadian club.'"

Geez CVA!!! You're making ME look like a STALKER now. And unfairly I might add. P, your name/thread came up briefly, along with several other DBers, while we were waiting for more service at the bar. I think I said something along the lines of your H has his head up his a$$.

No worries, Nomo. And compliments are always nice!

Or maybe just you two louts talking about me. Thanks a lot!

Great!!!! Just what I was afraid of. Sorry.

Again, no worries. I'm sure it had more to do with me thinking about this stuff yesterday than ears burning in response to a convo 1,000 miles away!

BTW, I am ending this second "college days" phase . . . tomorrow.

Really? Not having as much fun anymore or just plain ol' worn out?

Take care, everyone.

[SunnySeason]

Wow Puddle, you're doing the right thing by taking a trip to get away for a while.

I'm enjoying the different ways you use to stop the ticker tape from running, especially these;

Hey, I think when my brain starts going there, I'm going to pull what GD did to sop on his last posts:

"Hmmm, I wonder why H is so pissy. Could it be he's jealous?"
"Irish guy walks out of a bar ... hey, it could happen."
"But he could've wondered where I was headed dressed nicely and rushing out the door..."
"Seal walks into a bar. Bartender says 'What'll you have?' Seal says 'Anything but a Canadian club.'

Took me a second to figure out it wasn't the mead also. I was already thinking about the weight of Heim's baggage (baggage is kinda a bad word around here, isn't it!)

May not be true for you, but is not at all unlikely, so don't be naive about the possibility.


That's exactly what I'm going for---no surprise.

I know I wasn't thinking there was OW at the beginning, at least not in terms of H having had one waiting in the wings for so long. It did surprise me...I would have liked to have at least suspected it b/f the day of the 'bomb'.

Have a great trip (((Puddle)))

Sunny

[S.T. _I Made It!]

your absolutely right not to try and figure it out. You could end up being totally wrong, and if you ask directly you probably won't get an absolute correct answer.

Don't let H's problems and mood bring you down either. especially if he brings the car late. don't give him the satisfaction that he's trying to make your life miserable (subconsciously I believe). Those who aren't happy try to bring everyone else to their level so they don't seem so unhappy and seem more the norm.

[Puddle]

Thanks, sunny and ST!

I just got H's credit card bill; I do all the bills, and he knows I see these. Looks like he's been spending time in COW's hometown, which had never occurred to me. Had a split-second of stomach knot, then asked myself, "Okay, does that change anything?" and answered, "Nope." Stomach knot gone.

You folks in earthquake country, you know that moment when the earth begins to shake and you don't know whether it's going to get more and more intense or fade away? Felt like that. Just a tremor.

ST, thanks for the point about H being late. Occurs to me he's probably quite, ahem, busy doing whatever he's doing, and may very well be late. I'm packed and have my stuff stacked by the door, so I'm ready to kiss the kids and wave a cheerful "Have a good weekend!" to everyone on my way out.

No more surprises!

Take care.

[Nomopo]

I just got H's credit card bill; I do all the bills, and he knows I see these. Looks like he's been spending time in COW's hometown, which had never occurred to me.

Does this change your thought about him and her just being friends and his not lying about it?

Nomo