CVA - Not sure I have figured anything out?

[chicki]

CVA,

Good for you and Nomo for helping with your spirits!!!

I too need to GAL and soon & its so hard since H has been going out on business back to back this month..UGh feel I need a break form kids to H .....

I need to open a new thread....I emailed H to please give us some space...and the **&%$##$ does the exact opposite!!

He is tyring really hard to pull me back in and pulling out all resources.....

[Puddle]

That sounds great, despite your early departure. I'm sure Nomo will confirm that his groupies (groupies?) didn't need any encouragement to build you up!

Sounds like you're feeling really good re W, and I'm happy to hear that.

And now you're off to play golf? You *are* Superman!

Hey, here's a question for you (and everyone): We've been talking some about anniversaries and whether or not to acknowledge them. What's everyone planning to do about the holidays? A nice, new copy of DB? But seriously.

Take care.

[Not Much Left]

I am going to act "as if" since this truly may be the last holiday season we spend together. If she tries to take the kids out of town during Christmas, the s#*t will definitely hit the fan.

C

[Puddle]

Getting her anything? If so, what?

[Not Much Left]

Have not thought that part out, I guess lingerie would be out of the question? he he.
Seriously, I don't know but I doubt it. Just sick of giving with nothing coming back

What would it prove anyway, "I am thinking about you?", "I still love you" uhhh, doy! Whereas any gift from our spouse would seem out of guilt at this pt which I don't want anyway. Just the kids I think.

[waw1978]

Urgh. Holidays. Why did we have to bring this up?

Thanksgiving H gets her in the AM. His family eats at noon and is wrapped up by 3. My family starts eating around 2-3 and keeps going until people passout from over comsumption.

X-Mas...eeeww this is going to be difficult. How does one break this up? Any ideas?

If you are amicable and no OP do you stay at same house so you both can watch kiddies open Santa's presents?

I imagine Xmas day will be the same split, him having D4 in the AM me getting her for the afternoon/eve.

Any other ideas? Do you get each other gifts still or just nothing? Just for the kids?

[mark in uk]

This is what i am worried about too. What memories do the kids have???? fragmented days, and bitterness. Kids can tell. But i suppose it may help as W or H remembers what used too be.

[Nomopo]

Hey buddy. How you feeling?

I like your goals.

4. Get a little more counseling to figure out if I will ever be able to control Angry CVA.

Get as much as you need - little or a lot. Have you done the voice dialogue thingy?

C
11

What's the 11?

By the way, on the holding pattern issue, I do think you need to shake it up, and you are moving that way. But I will add this: In my own holding pattern, I discovered I was irritated only because I let myself get irritated. Really, my current holding pattern isn't bad. I could do this for a while (not sure if W will). If it lasts a while, then either we will move to a D, we will stay exactly the same until I tire of it, or maybe she'll come around. All of that works for me.

Night was fun, falling asleep. Butt pants, mmmm, mor like well fitted expensive jeans, nice [censored] and cool shoes (good breath, white teeth and smelled ok I think!)

He was a huge hit with the girls and the guys in the group. (And one told me later - his teeth were so white!! ) All CVA lacks is confidence (and I think he may be hustling us there). Once he puts himself in play, it won't be long at all. In fact, the only impediment for CVA would be his own potentially ridiculously high expectations!!!

Hey puddle, just posted on your thread. You and Sunny got a lot of airtime while we drank and talked!

Ok - more stalker talk to deflect here. Sorry Puddy and Sunnle. (Oops, may be still drunk???)

met w/ Nomo at a hole in the wall bar where we drank some more and he got his groupies to butter me up and tell me how great I am (Thanks Nomo!) Wonder how much he paid them, it must have been a lot!

Not a cent. In fact, they paid me later for the privilege of hanging with you.

So I snuck out around 11:45 while he gave me a hard time about leaving (had to wake up at 6 to get the kids to school).

Wussie!!! :tongue:

Need lots of caffeine and off to play Golf! It is beautiful outside so looking forward to it.

It's a PERFECT day here for that.

Hey, here's a question for you (and everyone): We've been talking some about anniversaries and whether or not to acknowledge them. What's everyone planning to do about the holidays? A nice, new copy of DB? But seriously.

My wife said a few weeks ago she assumed we would spend the holidays together like normal, as a family. Weird, huh?

If she tries to take the kids out of town during Christmas, the s#*t will definitely hit the fan.

You know she will. Is that wrong???

Later,
Nomo

[Puddle]

So Nomo's spending the holidays acting "as if" as a family, CVA's W is going to try to take the kids out of town. What are you going to say about that, CVA?

What about gifts? Anything? A nice, framed 8x10 of the kids (for those who've moved out)? Nothing?

[Not Much Left]

So this is pretty cool. SIL, W and I at dinner and whadayaknow,2 beautiful women giving me the silent treatment, I have to pay, and no bada bing later! That sucks!

Calgon, take me away....