ILY's & ML...no fights..this is a strange S! Help!

[nephartiti]

Hi Ginger, I hope you're feeling better from that rotten stomach flu. I agree with Dom that you can not change how your H handles anger. All you can do is change how you react and deal with it. Try a different approach instead of "more of the same". Although your response is completely logical, it is still a cheeseless tunnel if you don't get a positive response. He may take your response as "holier than thou" or condescending.
Maybe you could try validating his feelings by saying something like "Wow, I can see this is really upsetting you." After a few interactions of just validating and listening, maybe you can through something out to make him think like, "What is it about these situations or people that really get to you?" Sounds like he just needed to vent, but maybe you are not comfortable being that venue for him?

Have a good day. Take care.