ILY's & ML...no fights..this is a strange S! Help!

[Gingersnap]

I call it alien spew because my H wasn't at all an angry man up until about a year ago...the exact "seemingly from a different person" that you talk about. And the only reason it's not directed at me is because he's left the house and has much less contact with me. I flinch when he starts his rants because it usually turns into a "it's all your fault I'm this angry..." I don't want to change his personality at all, he's done that himself. This angry side of him was extremely disrespectful to me when he was home. I was all but ignored except for cutting remarks or exasperated sighs when I tired to talk to him. I was insignificant and clearly a thorn in his side. I take ownership in enabling his behavior by tiptoeing around him and essentially becoming a doormat. But that part of me is done and on the way to healing.

I am glad, in a way, that he is still on his tirades now that he is gone. It's my hope he will see that I'm not the cause of his anger, that he will take ownership of it and get help.