So much for giving him the benefit of the doubt, he was active on match within the last 24 hours.
Last night I took my mortgage broker/friend to see the house. She thought it was sooooo cute, seemed like a great deal, etc. At first she was all gung ho, but we went out for a cocktail and thru the course of conversation, she was like "you're not ready. You should be, because you *husband* is on Match.com, but you're not." I know I *should* be too.
She recommended I say the following to him: "You (H) are single handedly destroying our marriage. You have two choices-you come back home and we move forward with our marriage OR you divorce me. Until you make up your mind, leave me be. I'll stay here in the house, and we will continue with the current financial agreement, but I don't want to see you."
Last night, I saw the wisdom in staying put. This morning as I typed that, I thought-"great. so I stay in house that I may or may not have to move from, for an undetermined time waiting for the other shoe to fall or not."....
The beauty of the lease is that I won't have any "lost" money if I don't buy it, accept for the $$ that over and above my H's current rent. IOW, I cover his $1200 rent and I would have to cover $2100 for the lease.
Him saying that he "is single and has no baggage" means that either he is purposefully lieing to potential dates OR he is not confused about me, as he claims, and is using me. Either way-not so cool.
What if I say the above speech, but instead of staying in this house, I move into the lease house, but I ask that he not file for at least 6 months (if that is what he decided to do.)
Is that a good idea?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
