ILY's & ML...no fights..this is a strange S! Help!

[Dom R]

Well, since I've spoken to Mr. Hyde for the past week it's only natural that I'd hear from Dr. Jekyll soon.
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H calls again this morning. But his voice is higher pitched, words are shorter and clipped (this is a giveaway that I'm about to hear from Jekyll). He asks if he told me about busting some drug dealer with a fake Rx? Yes, he had told me ...a few times. I listen to the story again. The alien spew starts....the name calling on what a lousy piece of crap this scumbag is and he deserves to rot in jail,

Ginger... your post left me a bit confused, for most of it.

When people use terms like "alien spew" around here, and other similar forums... they usually are referring to strange utterances that come out of their spouse's mouth, that are seemingly from a different person. Things like, "I never loved you", or "I hate [thing about you that I liked before]", etc.
Generally speaking, things that show hatred towards the LBS that they previously loved.

Whereas, correct me if I'm wrong, but... the only thing that seemed to be coming out of your husband's mouth, was anger and hatred towards OTHER PEOPLE.

I understand that you dont "like" this side of your H, and it doesnt particularly make you attracted to him... but nor does it sound like he is particularly attacking you, or complaining about you.
So.. umm... i'm not sure really what you have to complain about :-P

Are you somehow bent on "getting your husband to change his personality"? 'cause... that isnt really something that is usually encouraged (or even generally viewed as possible) on marriage support boards.