More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

Good question. Honestly I don't think I do. If she was not living here, I think that I might, at least I would refrain from initiating contact.

I don't want to be indifferent and walk around the house avoiding her waiting for her to strike up a conversation. It's just not natural. Maybe I need to go "gray", not completely dark.

In the end it's all trial and error like Michelle says I guess. Put a technique in place and then sit back and take note of the outcome. If it works, great, if not, change it up a bit.

Either way I do this, I know it will be tough. If I stay focused on my goals, it should make it at least bearable. One way or the other, the last thing I need her to feel is pressure. Whatever approach I take, she can't think it's a ploy. Even if she begins thinking that I've finally accepted the end of the marriage, the idea here is to have her WANT the marriage, regardless of how I feel.