I guess I want to transcend the physicality in a way, and value ( and be valued for) some inner, deeper quality
By eliminating the physicality from life, LD women actually STIFLE their inner qualities. What men REALLY want from a women is HER ability to be sexually confident. This means that she can actually bring her emotions, her confidence, her strength, her inner qualities into ALL aspects of her relationship with her man. What I find with LD women is that they have extremely LIMITED ability to relate with their men, they have extremely LIMITED ability to bring forth thier INNER qualities.
Try to think of how you could bring out all your inner qualities and get your man to appreciate them, BUT DO SO USING ONLY YOUR BODY. By avoiding the physical, you are essentially getting the OPPOSITE of what you want in a relationship.
You have to remember, being physical, being sexual, is fully integrated into every aspcet of a mans life and personality. By trying to avoid physicality, you are shutting him OUT, not inviting him into your deepest core.
Everything that women want in their lives is achieved by being sexually confident, not from being LD.
