There and Back, # 9

[Dom R]

But ten years ago you had a big wedding in a pretty place, like a princess. Even Princess Diana got a divorce though.

pretty marriage ceremonies, dont make for pretty marriages.
The "even" in "even pricess dianna", is kinda wierd to me.
Both she, and Charles, were not ready for marriage in the first place.

For morgan:

I know, I know, none of that will get me what i want in the end. I don't even know what I want at this point, truth be told.

If you decide you want a marriage with your H again, there's something you need to realize:
It's beyond "not getting you what you want".

every time you "lose it", or act demanding, you push him further away.

the sad thing is I think I could have diffused a lot last night if I had just asked how he was after he had asked how I was. I didn't. I don't ask anymore. I don't ask anything about him anymore. I thought that was the right thing to do...now am wondering.

My opinion is that you should have asked. Unless you are specifically and deliberately in "I dont want anything to do with you" mode... you should at least be polite, shouldnt you?

I think that being in half-and-half mode, is another "push him further away" thing.
If you tell him, "I dont want anything more to do with you until you stop having an affair", then it's clear to him why you are acting that way, and what he has to do to stop.
Otherwise, the best thing (judging from other folks) is to be nice to him.

Inbetween behaviour, i think perpetuates and reinforces you as not a nice person to return to.

It's not logical, or fair, to act nice to a person who is betraying you. But it seems like, by most accounts of recovered marriages, that is what is needed, for those who dont just "go dark".