from what I've read.. now is NOT the time to talk about Rs, even if SHe initiates it. That is to say... don't go into DEEP details.
That is to say: she's probably still all about her. she may only want to "know about you", insofar as it relates to HER>
It's really, really important that you stay out of this trap. she'll probably try to pick a fight with you to justify her not going to retrouville. Stay out of it.
Retrouville will give you tools to discuss the heavy stuff, without poisoning your relationship. Right now, you dont have the tools. so avoid it.
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No, she told me I didn't have the right to feel hurt, that we were so very far from being at a place where we start taking each other into account.
in some ways, she's "right". not in the sense that you dont have the right.. she IS your wife. But she's right in that you should not have expected any kind of compassion from her at this point. because SHE [not "we"] is very far from being at a place where she takes you into account for anything. I think you already knew this. So, be smarter next time [and cover your nuts ]
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
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