that is what I will probably end up doing but I just do not want to give up so quick.
I'm writing this on your thread, but it's directed to just about everyone else that equates moving forward or moving on as "giving up". Why is it giving up? Because you have a peice of paper that says you're divorced? And how exactly is what you are doing keeping the divorce from happening anyway? I'm not saying you can't or won't be together every again. I'm just asking you to try to preserve some semblance of a healthy, adult relationship. Accept things as they currently stand and try to make the most of it. While your fighting the divorce, she's getting more irritated at you and seeing you in a pathetic light. You can let her thoughts of you be positive ones. Would you rather save the relationship with her or the marriage? Divorce can actually make it easier to develop some of the groundwork for a relationship, namely friendship, if you're willing to fill that role for awhile. Once the pressure is off, you might find that she's more available and willing to be around you.
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In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt