eta, the sad thing is I think I could have diffused a lot last night if I had just asked how he was after he had asked how I was. I didn't. I don't ask anymore. I don't ask anything about him anymore. I thought that was the right thing to do...now am wondering.
M, It doesn't matter. Don't go through the 'could have, should have's'; it is just not worth it. What is done, is done. Yesterday was a hard day, you made it through. Pick yourself off, dust yourself off, reread DB/DR and get back on the saddle.
Hope you do something special for yourself this weekend. you deserve it.
Me: 41 H: 42 Married: 13Y, together 24 Kids: S11, S9, D6 Bomb: 7/11/06, now piecing