I wonder also if the fact that your H connected physically with someone else has led you to label physical connection as superficial in order to keep at bay the thought that he had a deeper connection with this woman than he wants to have with you.
Lil, You are forgetting that for a decade of my married life I basically had no sex drive and we lived in a sex starved marriage ( as defined by sex less than 10 times per year). Clearly I wasn't a physical person. It is really a miracle that I became sexual again, and right now, this is the most sex I have ever had in my whole life.
