Morgs, how bout acknowledging your inner child to help soothe the pain?
Pretend that you are two people. One is the parent and one is the child. The child is the one that your h needled today, the child is the one that is so upset. Your other part of you that is the parent should hug the child and tell her whatever you would tell a child of yours that has experienced pain. Tell her that you know it hurts but you love her and give her all the cuddles you can. I can't remember where I read it but it does help. My C also did this with me, it doesn't take away all the pain, but it does help you to realise that you have the ability to comfort yourself. You are an adult now adn to expect your parents to comfort you as they would have done when you were a kid is not necessarily going to work, you as an adult have to comfort your inner child. You have to love yourself. You don't need anyone else to love you (it'd be nice, but it's a want, not a need) because you love yourself enough to be the best you can be.
