I am so glad you had a great night and you had what sounds like a wonderful convo w/ your H. WTG on the validating. You've earned some stripes on that one. Keep plugging. You're awesome, chica, and I don't say that lightly!
Everything is mellow around here. I'm about to leave for our MC appointment.
A few things:
1. H is trying on the love tank stuff. Is it everything I want? No. But there's serious effort, and so I'm acknowledging baby steps with the belief that more will follow.
2. H is also taking steps to find another job. He has my full support. No more talk of just running away with nothing else lined up.
So, these things are good. I just don't know how much I want to say...because it seems like keeping H on the hotseat is the only thing that works. In the past, when I said that things were better during MC, he started to back off what he was doing. Maybe I'll just say that I'm nervous about complimenting H because I'm afraid he'll back off. It's honest, right?
Anyway...just feeling tired and so not in the MC mood today. Should be interesting to hear what H has to say.....
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Hey girl! Good things to read. Hope MC was beneficial to you! Keep on keeping on. Take care of yourself so you can spread your words of wisdom on my thread! I love the colorful woman you are!
So, these things are good. I just don't know how much I want to say...because it seems like keeping H on the hotseat is the only thing that works. In the past, when I said that things were better during MC, he started to back off what he was doing. Maybe I'll just say that I'm nervous about complimenting H because I'm afraid he'll back off. It's honest, right? SD
Oh yes! I know this one!!!! My H would ask "are you OK" and of course in full on good DB mode I would say "Yes" and he'd look releived as if he was thinking "phew, she's said she's OK so the pressure is off I don't have to try anything I can just slob out".
Hmmm... will think on this one, there is a solution to this....most of it involves patience though
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
Just a quick check in to say your thoughts and prayers are needed for San Diego right now. I'm not in danger where I am (for now...we'll see; this is a MONSTER fire), but many, many people are losing their homes. More than 250,000 people have been evacuated, and because of weather conditions, they don't see any let up in sight. They're saying this one may reach the coast....
Anyway, prayers, thoughts, meditations, donations to the Red Cross...this is really, really bad. I'm 2-3 miles from the coast, and the air here is unbreathable from the smoke.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Oh SD - I'm so glad your'e not in any danger but I am so sorry for what's going on there right now!! Thoughts, prayers, hugs are all headed your way.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I will D this man if he stays on this path. He gets to make decisions that affect us both, and I'm a selfish bitch if I have any objections. Well, he can go f*ck himself. I'm not going bankrupt because he won't include me in his plans or put in the work he needs to do to do what he freaking wants to do.
So d*mn close to becoming the WAS....just really infuriated me tonight at MC...and I'm just supposed to go along with this fairy tale plan with no freaking questions.
WHY do we get married? I have friends, and it wouldn't be a stretch to get laid. *I* am financially responsible, and *I* am not a nutjob. WHY do I need a H?
The answer is I don't. I don't at all. No kids, not much property to split up, just wondering what the hell I'm waiting around for. It's not a partnership, it's a do what I want you to fest or you're a bad person.
No worries...48-hour rule in effect, but I needed to vent. I'm supposed to go out and be happy W tonight. Don't know if I can...but I won't make any stupid decisions.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
