Time for healing without closing the door

[Gingersnap]

If he stays over then I won't have any space of my own. I will be open to scrutiny and his life will remain closed to me. This is the dynamic that I am sick of. I tell him everythign (at least I was, I'm not going to now!) and he tells me only the bits he thinks I need to know. This invariably means that he can just give me tidbits of info and I will think he's wonderful until the penny drops and he gets guilty enough about what he is doing and then drops another bomb on me.

Hey Casey,

Just read through your sitch and you are right, there are a lot of similarities with your H and mine. And the quote above is scary it's so similar. Getting anything AUTHENTIC out of my H is an ordeal. It's like dealing with a child who can't talk. He says what he *thinks* I want to hear, which more often than not is wrong anyway.

He does these things and will talk about coming home - but nothing gets fixed.

So I'll keep an eye on your sitch. I know it's hard...and like you I'm not sure it's going to be work out in the end. But stay open to it, ok?