I can't be available, and I need to be otherwise occupied, when she calls and asks me to run here or go there.
I agree. Call me old fashion, but I think if a couple is separated, then they should be treated and behave as such. Why is she still telling you what to do? She has lost that call. I don't believe that text messaging and phone calls should be going on unless it is something "important" about the kids. If you put her in the position to see what her life will be like without you, then she may get her eyes open, but right now....she has not truly been placed there....has she? You are still being her little puppet. Don't mean to make you mad by saying that, but it is what I'm reading into the posts.
You probably have mixed emotions about what to do b/c you do not have a clue as to what to expect from her. She is wanting to eat cake. She is trying to have you and the OM. I think she was testing you by ML and wearing the T-shirt and panties to see what/how you would react. I know what Michelle says about the sex stuff.....but like I said....call me old fashion. I would not ML with somebody I was going to leave in a day or two...but that is just me. Not finding fault with you......after all, you are a man (lol). Sorry, couldn't resist.
Anyway, I think she is testing you. If you go dark.....she may start to see the light. If the OM is getting a divorce, she may have to try him out.......so prepare yourself. However, after they see they both are "free" to be together.....they may quickly discover that it is not nearly as exciting as it was when it was so "sinful" to be together. You have to decide if you want to wait it out or just get out of the mess now and start a new life. Are you over her? Do you think you could get over her and move on with your life? You know that the kids will always be the tie that binds. So, a lot of this depends not on just what she does, but on how you feel and what you want out of your life.
I hope that you make the right decision. How are the kids doing by now? Be prepared for them to play their little "games" between you and the W. Unless they are above average kids, they will work one against the other.....for their advantage. But, hopefully it won't be that bad.
Well, take care and I do hope that your life gets much better real soon.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
