Funny thing, once I really detached I realized (no matter how painful it was) I needed my husband to be around OW and date others if necessary. I figured it was the only way he could really make a valid decision about leaving or staying.
He couldn't be told that the grass wasn't greener on the other side, he had to go there, examine it, and experience it before he could make up his mind.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I'm doing OK, SueS. Thanks for thinking of me. It's very difficult not knowing what she is doing. I don't even want to think about what she is doing, especially at this hour (10:30 PM)
In a departure from previous trips, she has actually called my son's cell phone once, my office once, and my cell three times. Not sure how to interpret this, so I won't even try.
Tonight I was at urgent care for about three hours. #2 broke his finger yesterday at football practice yesterday. I became concerned when it was still swollen today. He's going to be OK. His football season is probably over. And the playoffs start Sunday...
root: Thanks for checking in. Not sure my wife will be dating others. She would see that as "cheating." Oh, not cheating on me, cheating on her boyfriend. Is that sick, or what?
She remains extremely bitter and resentful of me. Some justified, some exaggerated.
Hey Mark, You have the right attitude. The best advice I can give is STAY BUSY! GAL like there's no tomorrow! And when she comes back, let your attitude be something like "Wow, I've had a great week - busy, fun, exciting, and of course I took terrific care of the kids. Oh, yeah, hope your trip was OK - gosh, I hardly even noticed you were gone!"
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Thanks Rob.... I gotta say, yep, that's exactly my strategy. My plans for an even better return were foiled when the maid called in sick. I envisioned her returning (when I don't know) to a spotless house. I will enlist the kids' help after school to pick-up and straighten a few things. The week was indeed busy, fun, and excting... it even included a broken bone!!! There will be a few stories to share with Mom.
I'm still scratching my head about her calling my desk at work yesterday. No, I'm stunned. This is a significant departure from what she has typically been doing when she travels with her boyfriend. I mean, rather than call my desk, she could have called my cell under the pretext of wanting to talk to the kids (we don't currently have a home phone; just lots of cell #s). But calling my desk at work is a call to me. I know, I know, it would be very risky to read anything into this. Just noting it, that's all. I still fully expect D talk to begin next week.
Keeping busy... and keeping that PMA ... My kids need me!!!
You are kidding, right? I have read your threads and you are doing GREAT!! And it's funny you should say that I inspire you when I get so much inspiration from you ... and all the other mommies and wives who have been left behind by selfish and immature men (who make us all look bad, in a way).
As I have said many times, most of us here have been served a $hit sandwich. Whether we take a bite is completely up to us.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
You are kidding, right? I have read your threads and you are doing GREAT!! And it's funny you should say that I inspire you when I get so much inspiration from you ... and all the other mommies and wives who have been left behind by selfish and immature men (who make us all look bad, in a way).
Mark- You BOTH inspire me!! Sounds like your week has been filled with activity. Sorry to hear that your S's football season is over due to injury.
I wish I could make sense of your W's call(s) to you. I hate to speculate, but maybe the "romantic" business trip isn't so romantic this time around.
Have a great day!
-SueS
Last edited by SueS; 10/19/0703:32 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
