I think that if Nikki's H decides that maybe he's wrong again, that she should wait it out much longer than before.
And, it just goes to show that the WAS really DOES have feelings for us, and definitely did before. They are just REALLY SCREWED UP!!!
and along with what you said Ellie, giving them a piece of their own medicine before giving up entirely... That's really what DBing is all about. maybe you don't go on a trip somewhere or live somewhere else, but you stop chasing them, stop letting them be the focus of your life, and start paying attention to yourself. Of course there are extremes to how far you take it. I think Nikki going on the vaca just shows what she needs to do more of, since H was happy and he called her. I think we really need to be at a place where we don't care if they come back or not before it can really work out. maybe not, but I really think I was at that point before my H and I reconciled.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
