thanks, Hiscott. I agree. And I don't give much thought to our beginning because it was almost 16 yrs ago - I thought H's history may offer some insight here.

My life outside of him is full and rewarding. I want this for our kids more so than myself at the moment. I'm happy to have space and freedom from his anger.

I feel like I'm in a holding pattern - I did all the self-help/searching last time around and I've refreshed them, but I don't feel like I'M the one with issues. Hmmm...does that mean I'm in denial?

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Me (36) H (42)
M (12)
S-8 D-5 SS-18
D Day (PA) 12/02
S 10/03 R 1/03
S again 9/07
I choose Joy.