How amazing that your words were brought back here to where it all began!
I think you captured it exactly right. It just resonated with me -- even all these many years later.
"Your spouse was looking for an affair, not looking for them in particular."
"When the other person starts making demands of your spouse he/she will begin to feel as if they have another spouse to take care of instead of a lover."
"An affair is not a rejection of you but a rejection of their role as husband/wife and the restrictions it brings." BINGO!
"Your spouse may see this new person as someone who offers up a new life, someone who will take them away from the burdens of having a wife and family."
Thanks again for the link. You must feel very fulfilled knowing that you turned all your pain into lesson and wisdom that you now share with the world.
