A month or so ago, I noticed this stupid pattern where, when xh and I get a little closer, I suddenly 'remember' what an ass he was during my pregnancy, and go back to mean and distant. I've been making an effort to catch myself at this, and let go of the resentment.
One of the things I caught myself starting to bitch about this morning was when he suddenly decided to drive off and move 2000 miles away. Granted, he and I had both talked about moving to here for years--my objection was how he went about it, not that he did it. He just took off. Talked about it for a couple of weeks, then got in his car and drove until he was in Arizona.
I was livid.
Anyway.
This was two years ago. I am happily living in Phoenix as well now. We have discussed this in the past. He has acknowledged his approach was wrong. It's time to let it go.
Because of my whole totalled-van-means-I-have-no-car problem, I am flying to the midwest and driving back with a minivan my parents are giving me. (My parents are awesome!) MIL (can I still call her that??) asked xh if I can bring 'some stuff' on the drive out here for her. She is moving here in the next few weeks. (I foresee lots of tension between her and xh.) He got mad that she didn't just ask, but apparently assumed that I was somehow obligated to do so. I hadn't thought of it that way, but appreciate his concern. I have agreed to bring a few items, so long as it's nothing too heavy; I don't mind, I enjoy doing nice things for people I care about.
Anyway, I noticed I've been kind of grumpy with xh the last day or so. I need to work again at relaxing, and letting go. Being angry just takes too much energy.
