Hang in there, Amy. His mind is presumably very fuzzy right now, and what may be well-intentioned from him, may seem negative to you.
Maybe you could hold off on making any judgements about him, until he is out of his treatment, and his mind is clear enough to tell you what is going on with him now.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle