Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[Dom R]

Dom, I think you are wrong. She is obviously mad at him for being involved with Amy

well, that part is "obvious", i'll agree.

and kicking him to the curb. He's squealing like a pig for forgiveness and trying to get taken back. He wasn't dumping the OW.

Where do you get that the OW is the one doing the dumping?
Also, what bits do you interpret, as him asking to get back in the OW's life?
[well, ok, there's the one line about "going back and wishing he could continue to show her that he loved her". But even there, there might be potential ambiguity.. depending on WHY he can no longer do that. ]

yes, he wanted to "be forgiven" for the pain he caused. That doesnt always mean "and take me back". after all, many leaving spouses, ask the same thing from the LBS, yet have no intention at the time, of reconciling with the LBS.


His message is very confusing... however,
Note that he said that he "has to be there", for his kids, not hers.

But even if I'm wrong about who dumped who, it seems to be plain that

1. He is resigned to it being over between them. He's stating that her kids will suffer, and he's sorry for that

2. He seems to acknowlege his responsability towards his own children.

and... he gave Amy his password

that to me, says that he wants to open up to her, at least for now... and people dont usually do that to people they are looking to dump.

This looks like his "bottom", and the potential start of a very long, and painful, but potentially real reconciliation path... if Amy can find it within herself to hold on for a while longer.
Many (if not the majority of!) affairs, end, when the cheating partner dumps the married one... and then the married one goes crawling back, it seems to me.
So, even if that is the case... it could still be a positive thing for Amy's marriage.