Your comment sounded a little condemning. I realize my M is the very thing many on here hope doesn't succeed. But it's my one and only - and my family is worth the fight. Yes, when I married H at 24 I was a A wife (although he was Separated at the time, I still take ownership of that- we dated for 5 yrs prior to M to help us prepare - I was a junior in college when I first went out with him). If I were the same person I was back then I'd be D now for sure. But 5 yrs. ago I gave my life to the Lord, and He took my M under His wing. I spent countless hours in scripture to see if I was even supposed to stand for my M or if the Lord viewed it as adultery. H's XW has remarried twice over. The bible speaks of remarriage and how it defiles the original, and you shouldn't take a spouse back at that point. So that and the fact that I am a new creature in Christ - the old has been washed away and there is no condemnation for that - gave me the strength to persevere for our M. Just wanted to give you that background....as I worked through a lot of that inner turmoil 5 yrs. ago and arrived at peace. H still hasn't dealt with his stuff. That's most likely why we are here.
Yes, I agree that he has a pattern of using OW to avoid conflict. And has done so with me and against me. So of course that's where my first thoughts go when he detaches. At this point I don't know if there is. He's not acting the same...before he lost weight, had breath mints, cologne, new underwear, etc. None of those signs this time.
Like I said....I have not spoken to him at all about the M or S. I pretty much only speak in terms of responding to him.
So I guess I'm on the right track....
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Me (36) H (42) M (12) S-8 D-5 SS-18 D Day (PA) 12/02 S 10/03 R 1/03 S again 9/07 I choose Joy.
