YA think it would be better to tell the truth.
Apparently he is unable to at this point so you need to do for you and let him be.

We will be here as much as we can.

You will have to let us know what you texted to him if you want us to.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez