My sister once said that the physical appearance issue between PAL (My new official name for 2bx due to recent financial issues and based on suggestion from GP. Stands for punk *ss loser.) and myself was at least in part due to the fact that we simply didn't share the same aesthetic. I'm thinkin' that maybe you would go more for the Beautiful Byronic Anemic Vampire type than the Big Bicep Healthy Beach Boy type. My suggestion is that you do the "do unto others what you would have them do unto you" sexual switcheroozi type thing and start gnawing on his musculature a bit. Since he did cheat on you that gives you the right, maybe even the obligation, to make sure that he is pretty much continuously branded with nipple hickeys. Or you could give him a really scary prison tattoo of your name on his *ss. Whatever works for you.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
LOL, Oh I know it. She was giving me grammar lessons a few weeks back and I thought I was really starting to make some progress
So RJ, back to this aggressive move you pulled on your husband... Any repeat perfomances ? If so, what was his reaction? Hey if you need any tips, don't be afraid to ask this aficionado of the aggressive varieties of sex acts. (See Lill, what do you think of that..this ole corn-fed country boy can use some big words. I don't know what they mean but... ) Well RJ, if you try any of them, tell your husband I said "your welcome"
Mojo, Sorry to jump all over your thread. You've got quite a story going on there with GP, and I'm gaining a pretty good arsenal of my own here with the wife. Is it something in the Michigan air? I'm sensing a business venture of the marketing variety between us that might, just might be able to add a boost to the Michigan tourism industry. What do ya think?
I'm thinkin' that maybe you would go more for the Beautiful Byronic Anemic Vampire type than the Big Bicep Healthy Beach Boy type.
LOL, You know me too well. Enuff said.
I do know I need to up the validation. I am sure there are many reasons why I don't: 1. It's my own version of marital sadism 2. I don't like the superficial aspects of myself 3. I really do have a thing for pale, ghastly, handsome vampires.
RJ, Got a book for you. "You Suck" by Christopher Moore. It's about a female vampire and her younger just became a vampire lover in modern day San Francisco. It's a hoot, as are all of his novels. However the audio book version, is even funnier as the female reader really does the goth girl segments perfect.
Scott
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
I really do have a thing for pale, ghastly, handsome vampires.
Don't feel bad. I have done a serious 180 on the whole "importance of physicality or visual appeal" thing. In case you haven't noticed, I keep hooking up with Type 4s but now I'm hooking up with Type 4s who are strongly attracted to my natural or personally preferred physical aesthetic for myself. Partly due to the fact that I have gained empathy for the fact that men can't help being sexual slaves to their visual cortex and therefore I have become more objective about objectification and partly due to the fact that we do share an aesthetic vision of "what is sexy", I am able to now do things like have long convos with GP about whether it would really be possible for me to lose an inch off my waist by adding an inch of muscle to my *ss rather than by losing weight. We are in agreement that the sexiest/best alternative would be if I could slip on any pair of size 12 jeans and have the waistband sit loosely but my thigh muscles popping out. I think it is highly possible that we both like this aesthetic because it will naturally improve my ability to hold him in a deathgrip semi-scissor lock with my legs when he orgasms. Also, he told me that I remind him of a "thick" version of the blond Alice in "Resident Evil" which means that he is insane but also did make me want to buy some thigh high suede boots with garters.
Another (at least to me) interesting note. We were talking about the slang used in the urban community for what GP jokingly euphemistically refers to as "enjoying connubial relations" and it's all variations of "beat her brainless" or "punished her good". The thing is within his community it is absolutely assumed and accepted that women like it that way and would have little respect for a man who didn't bring it on in that manner.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
RJ, Got a book for you. "You Suck" by Christopher Moore. It's about a female vampire and her younger just became a vampire lover in modern day San Francisco.
Sounds like a book I can really sink my teeth into....thanx Scott!
In case you haven't noticed, I keep hooking up with Type 4s
Well, I think there's a natural affinity between 4's and 7's, one type more depressive and the other more manic, but both creative and imaginative. When I am not depressed I am pretty animated,lol. My brother is a 7 and I feel I anchor him and he makes me laugh.
The psych community would say that you are into 4's to correct the damage from 2bx.
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I have gained empathy for the fact that men can't help being sexual slaves to their visual cortex and therefore I have become more objective about objectification
I know, I have just been resisting. Even my saintly father once said to me something about not being as attracted my mother's mind as her chest.
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Also, he told me that I remind him of a "thick" version of the blond Alice in "Resident Evil" which means that he is insane but also did make me want to buy some thigh high suede boots with garters.
Happy to see you having fun...I am beginning to warm up to this guy. And isn't that what matters, lol.
Okay, RJ-- I'm not at all clear on what you mean by "shallow" and "superficial"? You think it's shallow when your H wants compliments on his biceps. You don't like the superficial aspects of yourself. Explain please.
ETA: Being interested in the body instead of the mind is "shallow," right? So the part of you that wants physical stuff is "superficial"? Is that it?
I guess I want to transcend the physicality in a way, and value ( and be valued for) some inner, deeper quality...maybe it's a 4 thing, wanting to be unique/individual. Inwardly I am rebellious of the conformity to look attractive, although I do go along with the program, to a degree.
) Well RJ, if you try any of them, tell your husband I said "your welcome" 