Or maybe she needs to go to NC to your Dads and remember the good stuff herself.
I Honestly don't know how i would handle that sitch. Right now in your sitch i would be inclined to say that you would prefer she stay home as she doesn't want the family thing anyway but there are children involved and that wouldn't be good.
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You still have time to think about and see how the sitch moves.
JAk
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez