You're in a really hurry. Can you please be honest with me? Is there someone else? Listen I know that you had an emotional affair with Seth. I have seen all of the signs, if you disagree Im sorry but it stated everything that you did in the book. Have you even opened the book I got you? Under the chaper about infidelity, you may want to give that a look...
No, don't send any of the part I quoted. It serves no purpose and she wouldn't tell you honestly anyway. I'll just tell you what she'll say and then you won't have to ask. She'll say, "it has nothing to do with Seth. I just don't want to be with you anymore. No, I didn't read the book. I don't want to bust the divorce."
Why would you give her the book? You might as well have just told her everything you intend to do (LRT, GAL, etc) and that way she can presume that it's all a ruse to get her back.
I was saying that your wife will see it as controlling. It doesn't matter what your perception is...only hers.
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I just know that my W is that kind of person, once she is finished with you she will not want anything to do with you.
She is saying she's finished with you now. It doesn't matter if you are officially divorced or not.
You don't know her as well as you think. Did you see this coming? Did you know she would have an EA? Did you see her asking for divorce? Then how do you know she won't try again with you in the future if you're able to show that you are worth consideration? Me
Thanks for the advise Just. I will not send the part you quoted. I gave her the book so that she can see that we are not the only one with marriage problems, that other couples have been through alot worse than us and they worked it out. But a part of knew that she wouldnt read it. I just wanted her to know that I am serious about changing...I didnt think, I just reacted.. You're probably right about her lieing about the OP or saying exactly what you said. Since you said that she is more than likely viewing me as controlling the situation by not signing your probably right again. I'm scared and dont want to lose her. I can not let her go just yet. Thank you very much for the advise.
