I am feeling you there on those three points you made.....
I ask myself those same tings..
I reinterated to my girls this morning how what daddy and Ow are doing is not right in the eyes of the Lord...how being M was not meant to M to one person and still have a GF...
D7 told me she asked OW if she was gonna M her daddy and she said NO... I told her, Ofcoarse!! OW will not tell you otherwise..
I told her how OW IS trying to take away your daddy and she knows it isnt right....so that does not make her a good woman..no matter how "good of a mommy" she may act to you girls...