I swear he wants to be caught. He brings home love notes and sappy cards she sends him and leaves them in his room. (he has not shared a room or bed with me since he started up with her) All her notes are of the i love you, you complete me, you are my soulmate variety. She buys him little gifts, including those of a sexual nature (toys, massage oil, lubricant) and he brings these home and leaves them in his room. If he wants this type of attention, so be it. I left a funny card in his truck yesterday, just a thinking of you type of card. We'll see what happens.