Oh nothing too excited happened. In fact it was so quiet, since he is refusing to talk to me. Yep, he's 12. I said something and he didn't answer me so I went about my morning.
Not sure about the forum Sue but if you click on my name and look through my posts you will see it as I made a brief comment -Neph has seen it as well.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Sue, the article is in the MLD forum. The thread is "Interesting Article" I tried to put in a link, but it's not working very well.
lwb,
I don't think your H is back with OW. If he was, I think he would be sneaking around to keep it going and wouldn't be acting like such an idiot. Maybe he thought he would be able to reconnect when he went back to the school. Maybe this is the climax of him dealing with his rejection.
You don't deserve this. You have done everything right, by the book. Maybe it is time for another tactic, but I would wait til things cool down a little. It never seems to be a good thing when we make decisions while angry. I say lay low for a few more days and keep your eyes open.
(((HUGS)) lwb. He's being horrible. The nerve of him putting the blame on you!
I have some Tori for you
"I am not asking you to believe in me Boy, I think you're confused I'm not Persephone foam can be dangerous with tape across my mouth these things you do I never asked you how
Line me up in single file with all your grievances Stare but I can taste you're still alive below the waste ripples come and ripples go and ripple back to me back to me" (Pandora's Aquarium)
Brush this dust off your shoes and have a great day, lwb. You are above this BS, you are.
more (((HUGS))
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
It's tough as hell to understand, but this is NOT about you!! My H did that when we went through this 6 years ago. He accused me of possilby having an A with a neighbor during the times that he'd be gone F'ing his OW. I wanted to laugh in his face and tell him that at least he picked a handsome, buff guy for someone he thought I'd sleep with! You are the closest person to him....the easiest one to take things out on. We shouldn't, but we always take things out on the one closest to us.
I HATE it when my H ignores me, so I understand the frustration there too. Just answer my question!! Don't be nice if you don't want to, but have the G'Damn courtesy to at least acknowledge me.
I really hope the rest of your day goes better. I'll check later. I need to jump over to Morgan to see how her day is.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Despite I made many mistakes on dealing with our discussions about the issue what I will correct after going through this forum, one thing that got through my H when I found the OW love letter and his to her and he was mad at me was to say to him once and very seriously that all I wanted was for him to be happy because I was sure he was a great person.
May be this will sound silly or patronizing but you could go to him, look in his eyes and with your heart open say that. You might end up helping him more than you know.
At his point you and your girls must be the most important thing in your life however sometimes to go that extra mile to help someone heal becomes part of healing ourselves too.
